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On Feelings - A Monologue

Every feeling you feel is real. 

It has value. It is valid. 

It's completely normal for you to feel the feeling you are feeling.

Its okay✅ to feel angry and feel like breaking something 
(or someone) 😠

Its not okay❌ to execute this action❗😨🤕

Understand your feeling and ask yourself

Why am I feeling like this?🤨🤔

If you get an answer😯💡

Try to find a proper solution😎 from a calm mind😇

How do you get a calm mind? 
It depends on if you believe in the power of deep breaths and grounding yourself, but distracting your brain🗯️ from the trigger helps.

Distraction can be as simple as counting your fingers and toes 👐, stroking the inside of your palm (it tickles) or swirling saliva in your mouth (sounds gross, but helps).

Basically doing an easy access activity that requires minimal effort but requires you to be focused on it.

Now that you feel grounded, 

Listen to your feelings🗣️👂🏻

Understand your feelings🧏🏻‍♀️ 

If this feeling is about someone else❓

know that you can only tell them how you're feeling🗣️👤

But you cannot control their reaction to your feelings 🤷🏻‍♀️🙆🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️

Everyone has their right to their own feel✅

And everyone must respect that feeling😌..
even if it is not what you expect them to feel😕

Sometimes things📉 or people🧍🏻‍♀️❌🧍🏻 
don't work out the way you want them to😔

and that's okay :)

Remember that the only person or thing you can control is YOU

You cannot control someone else or change someone else's feeling or attitude ❌

That's a fact💯

Unless they see what's wrong in themselves, they won't ever change 🤷🏻‍♀️

Its up to you to decide how you're going to interact with them after you share your views on them to them.

If this feeling is about a situation, breathe

You can only do what YOU can do in this situation; you can't make the situation do something.

And honestly, you cannot forcefully change a situation, a person or anything other than yourself

Its absolutely stupid 🙄to think that you can change something beyond your control 🤯

You can only change your perspective 🧐.

So, try to deal with yourself by yourself😌

You cannot ask someone else to clean your mess or your feelings🙅🏻‍♀️

Take responsibility for yourself💪

☝️Simple to say🤓

Very difficult to follow😢

But try to be responsible for yourself everyday😊

Nobody and no situation❌ is responsible for your happiness ❤️, sadness💔, anger😡 or loneliness😢 Except YOU

Its okay to ask for help🎭 as long as you are also willing to do the work❗

Miracles🥳 start with you, the day you notice what's wrong and decide to work with yourself 😎

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