That Special Someone

Someone who respects you,

treats you right,

unconditionally loves you,

who sees the beauty in your cracks,

heals you, nurtures you,

bears with your mistakes,

forgives you,

takes time-outs when the stress is too much

but doesn't break the bond,

who encourages you to be your best self,

is your biggest motivator & cheerleader,

celebrates your baby steps,

has your back when you stumble and fall,

never uses your insecurities against you,

never puts you down or beats you up

never shames you for being yourself

who never forces you to do anything

who respects your privacy

gives you the time and space you need,

expects nothing but to see you thrive

in doing what you love,

is always there to give you love and understanding

no matter how your day went or how your life is,

who has boundaries which you respect,

stops you before you burn yourself out,

acts like a sounding board for your ideas,

gives you constructive feedback on your work,

motivates you to be the healthiest

and most authentic version of yourself,

Who watches out for you,

Who your close circles love & respect

Who is your:

3 am friend,

6 am good morning text,

1 pm did you eat? ,

5 pm come home safe,

8 pm I made a special dinner,

10 pm good night,

all time 'I love you for who you are' person,

who makes you feel comfortable to be yourself,

laughs at all your jokes,

knows all your sob stories,

understands your triggers, anxieties and pet peeves,

doesn't hold your past against you,

pushes you to be better

while giving you the belief that you are good enough.

Who is fiercely loyal and protective of you.

Who stands up for you no matter what.

Someone who is a safe home.

Someone you love spending time with

Someone who helps you feel happy and safe

And that someone who you totally deserve

Is Y O U

Now read it again

Being your own special someone

doesn't mean you are self centered,

egoistic or shallow.

It rather means

you don't need someone to be your hero.

You can be there for others and for yourself too

It means you can survive and thrive

by being your own Knight in Shining Armour...

and when the Universe decides to send someone special

on your path, you will know your worth

and how you deserve to be treated.

You will know how to be

a genuinely loving and supporting partner

and will not settle for anything or anyone less

You can be an amazing person to someone else
only when you are an amazing person to yourself
To be relevant to someone else
you need to feel relevant to yourself

💖Love Your Goofy Self 💖

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